“I want to give the essentials of the book,” he says, “and give its flavor or main characteristic.
And suggest if someone wants to read it or not, depending on his or her own taste.” “I basically just exercise my own taste,” he says.
When you feel that you don't have choice, or you don't have any options outside what you're already in, it's very hard to take the leap out of that.
I do think this access that I have been talking about has granted people hope, because there is more, there are other options.
Beforehand — and I remember from my college days — girlfriends of mine would have boyfriends where they didn't feel like it was right, but they said, 'But I don't wanna start going out every night, I don't wanna have to go to the bar every night and meet somebody.' Those days are no longer.
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In other words, they spent 10 years living with one or two partners, and they found how hard that could be, and they just don't wanna settle down. So, we have more options, and having more options of course also makes it difficult to find somebody else who shares your view of relationships and commitment, so that's a challenge in the modern dating world.
When I talk to people who are single who are dating, one of the things they say is that, 'You have to use the apps, because everybody else is on them.' So I think, for people who are looking for partners, the internet and the cellphone have displaced a lot of the old ways people used to meet.
"On the benefits of using a dating app MR: "One of the things that we know is that the apps have a reputation of promoting hookups.
But if you actually look at the data — and I do long-term, longitudinal, nationally representative studies with people — I find that people who meet online are not more likely to break up.
And if you're looking for something specific — let's say, you're looking for a partner who has to be a vegan and loves to do mountain climbing — you can find that person online, but you're not gonna find that person very easily in real life, because that person could walk right by you and you wouldn't know."To a certain extent, dating is about information gathering, and the internet and the phone apps facilitate that, to a certain degree."On disadvantages of internet dating MR: "I haven't found any.
The popular literature tends to view the internet dating, the phone apps, very skeptically.