It's when someone makes you feel like you're the most important person in the world, and they must be the one for you because they seem so perfect.However, none of it is real, and this isn't how a normal relationship is supposed to progress, Dr Steven Stosny writes in a blog post for Psychology Today.Since when is it a thing that you have to be in a relationship to be in love?You don't have to date someone to have feelings for them.When you first met the narcissist, they may have showered you with affection.They probably told you how different you were to anyone else they've dated, how you were "the one," and you two were "meant to be." They might have complimented you all the time, given you expensive gifts, even taken you on holiday.And if we spend enough time with someone and get to know their story, it is basically inevitable.
"It is possible, however, that you are currently in a mutually beneficial, casual hook-up situation. Spend some time thinking about whether or not the relationship is just fine for you as it is.Without the right words, everything can seem confusing, especially if you haven't read about personality disorders before.Psychologists and the online community of survivors of narcissistic relationships use several terms to help make sense of what happened to them, such as why they fell for a narcissists charm, why they were targetted, or what made someone they loved treat them this way.I think the hardest part about getting over someone you didn’t actually date in the first place is getting over that feeling of 'we could've been something so groundbreaking.' We both invested so much of our time, effort, and hearts into each other.Getting to know one another, loving each other flaws and all.